King David was the “apple of God’s eye,” a “man after God’s own heart.” Yet he selfishly used his power to sleep with Bathsheba and to murder her husband as a cover-up. King David took Bathsheba lustfully “at a time when kings go out to battle.”  He mistimed his steps, misused his resources, and set the kingdom off balance for generations.

I wonder what would have happened that season if David led as King that time instead of as a lover?

Like David, we’re all hypocrites, and yet  … God wants us to lead those around us, the best we can.

Growing up, I wrestled and pursued fitness, I chased girls and sex as if if they were salvation. And I tried to learn everything, giving me a false sense of control.  I often felt the intense energies of the warrior, lover, and wise man, but I rarely felt connected to the king.  A king can -- and should -- order and balance all of these other energies.

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The Nine Qualities of A Good King

As I seek to be a better king and a better leader in my earthly domains, I’ve noticed essential qualities:

• Order: With the help of the Warrior, a king sets boundaries on relationships and organizes resources such as people, time, money, health, and physical environment.
• Infinite Blessing/Benevolence: With infinite fatherly love, good kings want all people, even their enemies, to thrive.
• Counsel: With benevolence, the king honors all his advisors and seeks counsel, even from those who disagree with him. A while back, Dmitri Bilgere wrote about Level 3 emotional intelligence.  A healthy king is at level 3 or 4, free of the rule of his own emotions as well as the rule of other people’s emotions.
• Decisiveness: After considering all counsel, the ideal king can quickly assess the current reality and decide at the right time.
• Legacy: Good leaders stay true to plans with long-term benefits, not just what feels good in the moment. Good kings see what’s best for the whole kingdom for generations, not just a few people in one. Sometimes it is costly and lonely to hold this long-term vision.  So much of the country disapproved of Lincoln that it went to war with itself.
• Communication: Good leaders communicate their decisions and vision concisely, precisely, and consistently, striving to promote unity and joy.
• Joy and Creativity: A good king and leader, especially a father, knows how to dance and how to play uninhibited by shame. He loves the children of the world and the child within.  They are gifts from God and a source of great joy and creativity.
• Connected to God: A healthy king connects with our sovereign God Most High, knowing that ruling the kingdom is impossible without spiritual power from beyond the natural world.
• Assurance: Because all these qualities are strong, the king feels self-assured and can facilitate that same assurance and peace in those around him.

As Christ followers, we have an incredible privilege and miraculous ability to always connect with the King of Kings and the Lord or Lords.  And King Jesus has promised to bring a supernatural balance to this world that cannot offer His peace, does not deserve his joy, but was made for both.

He can do this in and through us.

• How is the balance in your internal kingdom?
• What do you do to help your people thrive in your external world?
• What aspects of the king do you need today?
• What other aspects of the king are there?
• Who are the models of good kings and evil kings in your life?

As we reflect on the importance of order, benevolence, counsel, decisiveness, legacy, communication, joy, connection to a higher power, and assurance, we find a roadmap to becoming better leaders in our own lives. But remember, it's not just about understanding these qualities; it's about embodying them.

A Way To Become A Good King

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Take advantage of this chance to unlock your inner king and embrace the qualities that can lead you to a life full of purpose. The first step is guidance, and we have amazing leaders with the qualities of a good king who can coach you with the right guidance.