Advent Reflection: Week 3

Advent Reflection: Week 3 - Joy

Joy isn’t some passing emotion that’s dependent on circumstances. It’s a powerful foundation—a deep peace and fulfillment that emerges when we stop hiding from who God created us to be. This week’s Advent theme of joy isn’t just a call to experience temporary happiness; it challenges us to build a life where joy becomes a non-negotiable part of every decision, relationship, and action.

Redefining Leadership Through Joy

Leadership doesn’t fit into one rigid mold, and neither does joy. You don’t have to be the loudest or most charismatic person in the room to lead effectively or to experience joy. Authentic leadership begins with recognizing your unique strengths—whether you’re an encourager, a creative instigator, or a compassionate rallying point for others.

Joy thrives in diversity. When you accept who you are—how you lead naturally—you encourage others to do the same and create spaces where joy can ripple out like waves on a calm lake. Instead of trying to meet someone else’s expectations, ask yourself: how do my authentic strengths create joy in my family, my workplace, or my community?

Takeaway: Stop hiding behind the idea that joy looks one way. Own your authentic leadership and ask, How can I inspire joy by simply being me?

Letting Go of Perfection to Embrace Real Joy

Perfectionism is an enemy of joy. When we tie our self-worth to flawless performance, we miss out on the beauty and meaning in imperfection. Joy doesn’t live in perfect results—it lives in the courage to show up, messy and real. True joy comes when we let go of perfection and focus on showing up wholeheartedly.

Joy is found in the process, not just the outcome. Whether leading a project, creating something new, or simply being present for someone, your genuine involvement matters more than the image of perfection you’re trying to uphold. The act of showing up authentically is worth more than getting everything right.

Takeaway: Challenge the lie that perfection equals joy. Reflect on your recent efforts and ask yourself: Where did I find joy in just showing up, without needing to get it right?

Finding Joy in Self-Validation

Too often, we let other people’s opinions dictate our sense of worth and reply on them to provide affirmation and validation. But real joy grows when you stop looking outside of yourself for approval and start finding value in being exactly who God made you to be. When your identity is rooted in God’s love, joy stops being about what others think and starts being about who you are at your core.

This Advent season, shut down the lies that say, I’m not enough, and replace them with the truth: God delights in you, just as you are. Silencing those voices begins with recognizing them for what they are – distractions and a false narrative that distort your view of yourself. Practice self-compassion prayerfully and let God’s truth define your worth. Joy is the peace that comes from knowing your value isn’t based on others’ recognition.

Takeaway: Stop waiting for others to validate you. Reflect on God’s love and ask yourself: How have I brought joy to others today? How can I see God’s joy reflected in me?

Rest, Connection, and the Joy of Abundance

Living authentically—and experiencing true joy—requires rest and connection. In the chaos of life, we forget that joy doesn’t come from doing more—it comes from being more present. Recharge your body, mind, and soul. Connect with people who remind you of joy’s simple truth.

Joy doesn’t flow from exhaustion. Soul care is a vital part of sustaining joy. Spend time in prayer, reflection, or activities that fill your spirit. When you give from a place of fullness rather than depletion, joy overflows naturally.

Takeaway: Schedule time for rest and soul care this week – stop the burnout. Ask yourself: Who or what fills my cup, and how can I embrace that joy and even share it with others?

Living in the Fullness of Joy

To live authentically means embracing all of who you are—and when you do that, you unlock the joy of living with purpose. God didn’t design you to play small. Your unique gifts, passions, and strengths are meant to be shared, not hidden. Joy comes when we align with this truth and live boldly in it.

Joy doesn’t come from playing it safe. It’s found in the tension between pride and humility. Celebrate your strengths. Acknowledge where you’re still growing without letting those growth areas define you. Lead with authenticity, and you’ll inspire others to do the same.

Takeaway: Don’t hold back. Reflect on how God has uniquely gifted you and ask: How can I step into the fullness of joy God has for me? Who needs my joy today?

The Challenge of Living Authentically

Joy isn’t a fleeting feeling—it’s a radical choice. As we prepare our hearts during this Advent season, let joy be the force that drives you to show up as your real self, let go of perfection, and trust in God’s boundless love. Authentic joy is the result of stepping into who you are, embracing your calling, and letting God’s light shine through you.

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