"The Lasso Way" and Soul Work

In a world that prizes performance over presence, charm over character, and comfort over courage, the Apple TV series Ted Lasso quietly offers something radical: a better way to live. It’s funny, disarming, sometimes vulgar—and surprisingly profound. The “Lasso Way,” as it’s called in the show, isn’t just locker-room leadership; it’s soul work in disguise.

Not the kind of soul work that comes from surface-level religion or behavior management. This is deeper. It’s the work of becoming whole. Of healing what’s broken. Of learning to live from the inside out. And in a culture of curated images and emotional shortcuts, that kind of work is rare—and desperately needed.

Because here’s the truth: your soul is always leading your life, whether you tend to it or not. Ignore it, and your unresolved pain will leak into your marriage, your leadership, your parenting, your choices. Tend to it, and you become someone who can offer presence, integrity, and love in a world starved for all three.

That’s why soul work matters. And that’s what Ted Lasso shows us—if you’ve got the eyes to see.

1. Wounds Don’t Disqualify You—They’re the Way In

Ted’s story is all smiles on the outside and unhealed trauma underneath. He leads with kindness, but avoids his own pain—until it catches up with him.

So many of us live the same way. We keep producing, performing, pleasing—while stuffing down fear, grief, and shame. But unaddressed wounds don’t go away. They just get buried alive.

Jesus never told us to tough it out. He said, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28). That invitation isn’t just for salvation—it’s for soul repair. For the places we’ve hidden, numbed, or ignored.

And when Jesus rose from the dead, He didn’t hide His scars. He showed them. “Put your finger here; see my hands” (John 20:27). Your wounds aren’t proof of failure. They’re proof that you’ve lived—and an opening for others to find hope.

Soul work is where your healing starts. And where others can be healed through you.

2. Grace Doesn’t Just Forgive You—It Changes You

One of the show’s most powerful themes is this: people can change. Not by being shamed, but by being seen.

That’s grace. Not a pass on sin—but a pathway through it.

Romans 2:4 says, “God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance.” The Lasso Way shows that kindness has power. Grace creates space. And in that space, we begin to tell the truth, feel each other’s pain, confront our patterns—and start becoming who we were meant to be.

That’s exactly what soul work is. Not self-help. Not self-improvement. Transformation. From the inside out.

Peter betrayed Jesus—but Jesus didn’t humiliate him. He asked, “Do you love me?” and then re-commissioned him: “Feed my sheep” (John 21:15–17). Big grace from God doesn’t erase your past. It redeems it.

3. Soul Work Makes You a Different Kind of Leader

Ted doesn’t lead with control. He leads with curiosity. With presence. With heart. That’s not weakness. That’s rare, grounded strength.

Jesus led the same way. He asked more questions than He answered. “What do you want me to do for you?” (Mark 10:51). “Why are you so afraid?” (Matthew 8:26). “Who do you say I am?” (Luke 9:20). He drew people out—because He wasn’t threatened by their mess.

That’s what soul work produces: not leaders who need to dominate, but leaders who can be present. Leaders who can lead with humility. “In humility, value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others” (Philippians 2:3–4).

The world doesn’t need more leaders with answers. It needs more who’ve done their work—and can hold space for others to do theirs.

You Don’t Have to Be a Coach to Change Lives

The “Lasso Way” isn’t really about soccer. It’s about people and wholeness. It’s about showing up with courage, truth, and compassion—even when it costs you something.

It’s a fictional show, but the soul work it portrays is real. And it’s available to you.

At The Crucible Project, we create sacred spaces for men and women to do that very work—to confront what’s beneath the surface, break through what’s holding them back, and walk in freedom and purpose. Whether it’s on a Crucible Men’s or Women’s Weekend, or through one-on-one coaching, you’ll find a safe place to face the truth, encounter grace, and step into the transformation your soul has been craving.

So here’s the invitation:

If Ted Lasso stirred something deeper in you, don’t just nod and move on. Respond.

Your soul is worth it. Your life depends on it. Say yes—and come do the work.